|@We need to have the ability to understand the meaning behind a childfs
facial expressions, behaviors and interests in case they canft express
their feelings and thoughts with words. We should understand that they
are trying to express themselves as much as possible.
@Letfs consider this example: A child canft stand not going to the same store and keeps getting stuck on a specific song.
@This child is an elementary student. When his favorite staff plays with other children, he canft approach her. He wants her to pay attention to him, but this doesnft always happen. Even at home, there are many things which he worries will happen. For example, his beloved motherfs condition is not good, she nags at his older brother who doesnft do his homework, and fights with his father, etc. When these things happen, he almost always goes to this store on his way home and doesnft move.
@We donft know exactly what he is thinking, as he doesnft tell us with words. However, what do you think he is feeling? There is a hint in the nice PR song at this store. The lyrics go like this,
@gôMixing warmth and smile to make juice, that is lovec the connecting of hearts, that is love, loveôh This child desperately sings this song over and over. At our center, he sometimes sings the Sailor Moonfs theme song, gôIfm sorry, Ifm too shy. So I can only say it in a dreamôh. EEEWhat do you think? We can guess how he is feeling!
@It is not enough that his mother and a member of staff stand by him. Together these adults need to look back at what has happened at home and at the center, and find out what the child is holding back, and what his dissatisfaction and worries are. After that, if they apologize by saying, gIfm sorry we didnft realize.h and comfort the child. gOh, you didnft like to see our fight, did you?h, then the child can finally feel relieved. As a result, his actions say gOh, you finally understand my feelings.h and he can leave the store.
@We often hear gMy child keeps watching the same scene on TV or VTRh from other parents. When we ask them what kind of scene their child is watching, they usually say it is the scene of the mother and child playing together, family members having a happy time at home, monsters fighting each other, the hero getting into hot water, or the main child being scolded.
@All scenes are valuable messages which reflect the childfs feelings. And so, we should see the childfs behavior as an important factor in trying to express his/her happiness, difficulties, and worries, instead of easily deciding that the behavior is bad. There is no doubt that children wish to have a relaxing space, comfortable and secure relationships, and understanding people around them.
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