"An Adult and A Child - Consideration@Based on the Relationship Between the 'Observer' and the 'Observed'"
|@Children observe the attitude of adults, deciding gThis person is X", in the same way that we judge and evaluate children. An adult and a child are always between in an gObserverh and the gObservedh relationship.
@For example, if we view a child in front of us in a negative way, wondering gWhat are they thinking?h, gWhy do they do such things?h, or gWhy they canft do it?h, the child in turn views us negatively thinking, gThis person wonft be able to understand me.h In such relationships, even though they look as if they are listening to adults their anger and feelings of opposition accumulate, and the child gradually feels negative about themselves, deciding gIfm not goodh. When an adult sees this, they assume, gIt's because they have a disability.h or gThis is the child's disposition.h
@Conversely, if we view a child in a positive way and try to understand the feelings behind their behavior, gWhy do they do such things?h or gThere must be a reason behind this,h the child feels this change in attitude more acutely. Children always seek people who can understand them, so, without question, they want to be with such a person and communicate their feelings or requirements to them. Adults and children then start to build a relationship in which they can understand each other. The child starts to develop a positive self-image, realizing gIfm lovedh or gItfs OK to be who I amh in the relationship.
@As just described, children are always influenced by the perspective and the involvement of the surrounding adults. Children have feelings or intentions as an individual even though they canft clearly express it in words or through behaviors. There is no child who wants to give an adult trouble.
@I mentioned this in previous articles, but when a child has disabilities or developmental delays, we become preoccupied with visible disabilities or how they are different from others. Therefore, we canft accept the childfs best attempts at expressing themselves and instead tend to view or guide them while placing priority on social conformity or development of abilities. However, there is a possibility of impeding the individual's communication, leading to a vicious circle within a cherished relationship due to occasional lack of consideration for emotional growth and decision-making.
@Healthy growth is sustained by secure human relationships. Once again, letfs reconsider communication between adults and children through the relationship between the gObserverh and the gObserved.h
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